How do I decide which Order would be best for me?
In trying to decide on an Order, here are some suggestions to help you:
1. Get in touch with your deepest desires.
- Do I feel drawn to work at home or on the foreign missions?
- Do I feel drawn to live and work/pray in a particular region of the world?
- Am I attracted to the active, apostolic life or to the monastic life, i.e. a life of enclosure, of prayer and of solitude?
- Am I drawn to a semi-monastic life which combines activity in the world with regular prayer-life in community?
- What particular kind of work do I envisage myself doing? How do I see myself ten years down the line?
2. Do I already know a Religious Institute that attracts me? Do I experience a ‘fit’ between their manner of life and my deeper desires?
3. If not, could I research the different Religious Institutes in the Church in an effort to discern which one seems to ‘fit’ my desires? Here are some of major ‘established’ Religious Institutes of Consecrated Life which you might like to learn more about:
There are also some contemporary Institutes, such as the Franciscan Friars of the Renewal. Most of these orders and institutes have websites which explain their particular form of life.
Most popular questions
- Can a gay man become a priest?
- I feel I have a specific charism to youth outreach. Can I live this charism out as a priest, or must I follow the charism of the order I join?
- What does discernment mean when we’re talking about vocation?
- Why are there so many different religious organisations?
- Why are there so many different religious orders?
- Are religious orders different from one another? If so, how are they different?
- Why can’t priests date and get married?
- Is a brother the same as a priest?
- I read stories of religious communities merging or closing down. Are religious organisations dying out?
- If I become a priest can I decide where I go and what I do?