If I became a priest, what would I do if I fell in love?
Falling in love triggers very deep emotions that touch the core of a person’s being. It is just as difficult for a priest as for anybody else to manage these emotions, which can be very powerful and may even cause him to question his original commitment. A good rule of thumb is not to make a decision in a time of inner turmoil, but to wait out the storm until calm is restored. Then you can place your life before the Lord in prayer, asking for light and wisdom and right judgment. All will be well if you follow these simple guidelines. It comes down in the end – just like for a married person who falls in love with someone else – to faithfulness and commitment.
Sometimes commitment to celibacy calls for enormous sacrifice and painful detachment. Faithfulness to your vocation is not possible without a deep prayer-life. Also, it can be made easier by the support of genuine friendships and especially of a ‘soul friend’ to help you keep focussed.
Most popular questions
- I feel I have a specific charism to youth outreach. Can I live this charism out as a priest, or must I follow the charism of the order I join?
- Why are there so many different religious orders?
- Are religious orders different from one another? If so, how are they different?
- Why are there so many different religious organisations?
- Why would anybody become a priest nowadays?
- I do not consider myself to be exceptionally holy, I try to pray every day and follow the commandments. I have always been very interested in the priesthood but I have never felt a burning passion for it. Could I still be called to the priesthood?
- The idea of public speaking is very challenging to me and I avoid it if possible. How can I be a priest when I hate public speaking?
- As a priest, will I get to see and talk with family and friends regularly?
- What does discernment mean when we’re talking about vocation?
- Do religious communities offer a trial period?