If I became a priest, what would I do if I fell in love?
Falling in love triggers very deep emotions that touch the core of a person’s being. It is just as difficult for a priest as for anybody else to manage these emotions, which can be very powerful and may even cause him to question his original commitment. A good rule of thumb is not to make a decision in a time of inner turmoil, but to wait out the storm until calm is restored. Then you can place your life before the Lord in prayer, asking for light and wisdom and right judgment. All will be well if you follow these simple guidelines. It comes down in the end – just like for a married person who falls in love with someone else – to faithfulness and commitment.
Sometimes commitment to celibacy calls for enormous sacrifice and painful detachment. Faithfulness to your vocation is not possible without a deep prayer-life. Also, it can be made easier by the support of genuine friendships and especially of a ‘soul friend’ to help you keep focussed.
Most popular questions
- Do religious communities offer a trial period?
- I see on vocations websites that I should contact their vocations director. What is a vocations director?
- School was never something I really liked. Is the study part of formation very hard?
- Why are there so many different religious organisations?
- If I request information about joining a religious organisation, will I be pressured into joining?
- Are there any books I should read to help me discern my vocation?
- Can I become a bishop or cardinal and not a priest?
- Why are there so many different religious orders?
- I hear my local priest say in his homily that there’s a shortage of priests in Ireland, is there really a shortage of priests?
- I feel I have a specific charism to youth outreach. Can I live this charism out as a priest, or must I follow the charism of the order I join?