If I became a priest, what would I do if I fell in love?
Falling in love triggers very deep emotions that touch the core of a person’s being. It is just as difficult for a priest as for anybody else to manage these emotions, which can be very powerful and may even cause him to question his original commitment. A good rule of thumb is not to make a decision in a time of inner turmoil, but to wait out the storm until calm is restored. Then you can place your life before the Lord in prayer, asking for light and wisdom and right judgment. All will be well if you follow these simple guidelines. It comes down in the end – just like for a married person who falls in love with someone else – to faithfulness and commitment.
Sometimes commitment to celibacy calls for enormous sacrifice and painful detachment. Faithfulness to your vocation is not possible without a deep prayer-life. Also, it can be made easier by the support of genuine friendships and especially of a ‘soul friend’ to help you keep focussed.
Most popular questions
- I feel I have a specific charism to youth outreach. Can I live this charism out as a priest, or must I follow the charism of the order I join?
- What is a deacon and how is it different than a priest?
- What if as a priest I need to take time out to care for a relative or family member?
- What can I do as a priest that I cannot do as a layperson working for a charity or NGO?
- I read stories of religious communities merging or closing down. Are religious organisations dying out?
- If I request information about joining a religious organisation, will I be pressured into joining?
- As a priest if I decide that I no longer want to do something, such as work in a specific parish, do I have any say or is it all out of my hands?
- If I become a priest can I decide where I go and what I do?
- What’s the difference between a diocesan priest and a priest in a religious order?
- What does discernment mean when we’re talking about vocation?