If I take a vow of celibacy, will I get very lonely?
It is true that the vow of celibacy can make a priest somewhat more vulnerable to loneliness in life. To some extent this is unavoidable for everyone, not just celibates, as ill-health, the death of friends, unresolved conflict, and so on, can affect anyone. Ultimately we all stand alone before God. Job states this well:
‘naked I came from my mother’s womb and naked I shall return. The Lord gave and the Lord has taken away. Blessed be the name of the Lord’.(Job 1:21)
St. Ignatius of Loyola encourages young Jesuits in formation to cultivate chaste love by ‘loving all creatures in God and God in all creatures’. In other words, when you seek God with all your heart, mind and soul, then you will be more inclined to find Him and to love Him in others. This can give a priest a very strong sense of connection.
Most popular questions
- I feel I have a specific charism to youth outreach. Can I live this charism out as a priest, or must I follow the charism of the order I join?
- The idea of public speaking is very challenging to me and I avoid it if possible. How can I be a priest when I hate public speaking?
- What can I do as a priest that I cannot do as a layperson working for a charity or NGO?
- Why are there so many different religious orders?
- If I request information about joining a religious organisation, will I be pressured into joining?
- Why do some priests wear religious clothes while others don’t?
- I do not consider myself to be exceptionally holy, I try to pray every day and follow the commandments. I have always been very interested in the priesthood but I have never felt a burning passion for it. Could I still be called to the priesthood?
- As a priest, will I get to see and talk with family and friends regularly?
- Are religious orders different from one another? If so, how are they different?
- What’s the difference between a sister and a nun?