I’m very attracted to women. Will this pass with time and training or will I always be tempted?
It’s natural for men to be attracted to women. It’s part of God’s plan for humanity. It helps to create unity, social harmony, and personal fulfilment, and of course it is how children come into the world. Being a celibate priest does not eliminate this natural drive. But, just as married people have to integrate their sexual urges within an exclusive, permanent, loving and faithful relationship to their spouse, so too celibate consecrated persons have to integrate their natural attractions within their life-choice, which involves a universal and non-exclusive love in imitation of the celibate Christ. This celibate way of living and loving requires a great deal of human maturity and not a little grace, but when it is lived out in freedom and with joy, it enriches and fulfils a person ‘a hundredfold’, just as a good marriage enriches and fulfils spouses, through all the ups and downs, joys and sorrows and challenges of married life.
Most popular questions
- I feel I have a specific charism to youth outreach. Can I live this charism out as a priest, or must I follow the charism of the order I join?
- What can I do as a priest that I cannot do as a layperson working for a charity or NGO?
- Why are there so many different religious organisations?
- The idea of public speaking is very challenging to me and I avoid it if possible. How can I be a priest when I hate public speaking?
- I hear my local priest say in his homily that there’s a shortage of priests in Ireland, is there really a shortage of priests?
- Why do I have to be celibate to be a priest?
- If I become a priest, will I be living with mostly elderly men?
- Would entering a religious community mean that I would have to sever my relationships with family and friends?
- Why are there so many different religious orders?
- What if as a priest I need to take time out to care for a relative or family member?